The Origami Of My Dream Wedding

Stress Out Wedding

i am pretty sure that if you were planning for a wedding .. that is about to happen.. you must be really stressed by now.. like I am.  Sure things are falling into its places.. but not everything right..??  You still can’t confirm the guest list.. and you can’t decide on the flower.. and now the brides maids are calling up to say.. that they may not be able to come.. due to personal reasons.

And what about the demanding outlaws.. who insist.. that you listen to her… or her sisters..?? Arrrrghhhhh..!! yes.. you agree with me eh.   So what do one do..??  You can’t please everyone.. that’s lesson #1 .. so what I suggest.. is for the spouse to be supportive.. come up with some common consensus.. and not make the wife think that she has to take care of everything .. and every issue.  Step up .. husbands…!!! and tell the wife .. that you will take care of your parents.. and she will take care of hers.  A wedding is to be enjoyed..now .. breath in.. and breath out.. and go for a spa.

Planning A Wedding To An Affair

Not you .. silly.. your spouse.  Yes.. while you are busy planning your wedding .. you might be ignoring your spouse.. and pushing him to another woman’s arm.. who may be more fun than you are.. at this very moment.  Yes.. that’s the cheating spouse’s common excuse.  And if i could do it every time.. when i hear such excuse from anyone.. i would definitely smack them.

While your friends and family can see the cheating signs.. most spouses can’t .. because they are way too busy planning their dream wedding.  So if you are putting too much time and energy into your perfect wedding.. now is the time to stop and reflect.  Weddings can be simpler .. and less perfect.. but once you ignore your spouse.. and send him to another woman’s arm.. there will be no wedding.

So g/fs .. the truth is harsh.. but once he starts cheating on you .. that’s it.. it will come back again.. even after the perfect wedding.  So now is the time.. to sit back.. and think.. of what you really want.

Cheap Weddings

So you want a wedding but don’t want to pay a fortune for it.  Can’t really say i blame you .. eh..??  who wants to start a life together.. with debt.  Instead of decorating the church with flowers.. why not try balloons.  Balloons are cheap.. and they are easily gotten.. and a few $1 air pump.. you are on your way to a beautiful church decorated in white and pink balloons .. to welcome the bride.

Plus one can get a neighbour who has a garden full of blooms.. to help with the wedding bouquet.. as well as the corsages for the bridal entourage.  I am sure.. some old lady .. would find the task welcoming for their mundane routine.  There are many things you can save on… if you think about it.  Weddings need not be expensive.. you can always think of cool ideas.. and a friend who is good with her hands.. is always good to have around.  Exploit that friend.. muahahahha!!

Saving Before The Wedding

Many ppl wonder how do one come up with all the money for the wedding.  In Asia.. you will have no problem recovering all the upfront money that you had spent .. because money gifts are the “in” thing.  Now if you are planning a wedding in the West.. it’s quite different altogether.

Gifts from friends and family.. are the most likely things you are going to get, although we still prefer to give cash to the new couple .. to help them out .. on their wedding expenses.  So what do one do.. ??  well, you start saving immediately.. and plan for your wedding a year in the future.. that way it gives you plenty of time.. to put aside some money.. without you and the man living on bread and water alone.

1)  Put away a portion of your pay .. into this wedding fund.  Both of you gotta put in the same amt of money.. so that there will be no resentment in the future.

2)  Some ppl recommend a personal loan.  I don’t really recommend it for those who cannot stay on top of the game… and cannot control your expenditures.

3)  Although, i know i told you in the beginning that money is not really practice here for gifts.. you can still make this request for cash .,. from close friends and relatives.  If they are anything like me.. i would definitely prefer to give money.. donch have to waste time.. and effort buying something the couple need and want.

Marriage & Weddings

Many women think that the wedding night is the most important night to wear sexy lingerie, but for someone who has had been with the same man for the last 9 years physically and long distance for 6 yrs before because we met online, I tell you for a fact that sexy lingerie is a must to spice up any relationship at any time. You want a healthy relationship, then you have to keep your man interested and work at it.  If the man of yours has roving eyes then make him rove no more by making sure that his eyes are only on you.

Flirting with your man by wearing sexy lingerie is what makes the man know that you care enough to dress up just for him in the privacy of your own bedroom.  Sexy lingerie can also bring the man home earlier and keep him away from those buddies of his.  But you and I know that sometimes we get too busy with work, family and other commitments and some like myself are shy to walk into a lingerie store to try on some hotties.

So online shopping can be a wonderful experience with Flirty lingerie for they carry just about anything and everything you need for that special night or special occasion or even just because.  Plus they even have panty shapers, definitely something I’d need to go under my wedding dress.  They also provide expedited shipping in case you were too busy and forgotten about that special planned night.  Also they are very reasonable with their return policy, a 25% restocking fee is a must to be fair to them of course.  Pay quick and easy by credit card and don’t forget they even have gift certificates, just in case the man don’t know what to get for you on your birthday, anniversary or just because he wants some loving.

Music For Your Wedding

I haven’t touched on this subject.. because.. i was so engrossed in other aspect of my wedding.  But we all know that having the right music..  for the entire wedding is very important.  But what kinda music..??  the generic wedding music..?  No way..!! every bride would tell you .. they want to be unique.. but how unique can one get in their wedding.. lets see eh.

A disc jockey..?? the traditional turntable kinda music..?? or a live  band..??  Hard choices eh..?? what does your man like..?? mine.. he said.. “anything”.  Yup..! right..!!!  that means i have to do all the work..  and that’s not right.  So if your man say that to you .. don’t hesitate to bring out the whip now.

As for me.. i love the live music .. but of course.. one has to choose wisely .. and the budget.. budget and more on the budget..! can one afford it..??  having a live band..  is expensive.. but if you are throwing a chinese wedding.. i guess.. you know that you will get that back in “ang pows” .. and that’s not a big deal at all.   But having said that..  you rarely see .. live bands.. in Chinese weddings.. unless of course the bride or the groom.. graduated from Harvard.

So disc jockey is great to have .. if you need to create an atmosphere .. of laughter.. and joy.. if the spouse, his family or extended family .. are not so fun ppl.  And they definitely cost a lot less than live bands.  But ultimately, if you are on a tight budget .. then the turntable.. and a very enthusiastic teen .. who loves music .. is the way to go.  Whatever one chooses, you both have to be comfy with it and within your budget.

Better Health

I am constantly reminding myself that having a wedding is not the end of a big project, it is a beginning of a much bigger plan for our future.  As a wife and a mother I have to think of being healthy, getting healthy and staying healthy; not only for myself but for my “new” family and our life together.

As far as I begin to understand things, my mother and my grandmother had taught me that natural healing or herbal healing is the best way to go.  Unlike the western medications, the Chinese believe that natural healing or natural supplements work best and do well for the body without harming the body or removing the good stuff that the body needs.

For one who is into improving their health permanently, check out www.medicine-plants.com.  Here you can learn all about the highest quality herbs and their uses at affordable prices.  Please also know that they have been helping people get healthy since 1993 and buying these herbal supplements is made easy because you can purchase them online.   If you know of someone who is menopausal or having hot flashes or even a hormonal imbalance, do get them to check this site out.

Natural Skin Care For Beautiful Brides

When one is younger they don’t notice how smooth and taut their skin is, but when they are getting older, like I am, well lets just say I wish I could have done more for my skin.  Of course some people choose certain specific brands but for myself after many years of trying different things, I prefer the au natural ingredients.

It is pretty simple why I choose au natural moisturizing body lotions or soaps and it’s because they use the finest ingredients with practically no side effects that I have ever encountered. Simple Scents is for every bride who wants to look radiant with skin they can be proud of.  After all, your bridal gown is going to be showing some skin and you definitely don’t want hydrated or rough looking skin.

For someone who lives with wicked winter and humid summer, i need a body lotion that not only moisturizes but really hydrate my skin.  You will understand what I mean, if you ever see my knees - they are so rough without good body lotion, that touching it may even cut your skin.  Smelling good is what all brides/women wantm but looking absolutely smooth and silky in your wedding gown is also a must.  Don’t deprive your skin of this wonderful and luxurious body lotion that comes in many scents for you to choose from. Whether you want to smell like the Ocean Beach or lavender or just want to smell fresh and sweet, check out Australia’s Simple Scents - they are not expensive either.

Our Home & House

A lot of people go into a marriage with a dreamy outlook and think that it is a fairy tale come true.  Truth be told, someone should tell them that it’s not a bed of roses after the wedding.  The wedding is only the beginning and I wish I could tell some of the younger brides about the whole house and home issues that everyone comes to me about after a couple of months together.

For someone like myself who also has a kid and a busy business to run with the spouse, Healthy Home Cleaning would definitely be something I could use.   Why? I’m pretty paranoid about using chemicals when my kid is around, therefore we only clean when she is sleeping. We’ve tried hiring part time cleaning ladies but if you could see the way they cleaned our house/home, you wouldn’t dare eat anything off your kitchen counter when they’re done.

When you hire someone to clean for you you want them to come prepared with everything so you don’t have to go and buy special stuff yourself. At Healthy Home Cleaning, they are professionals and they also use all environmentally friendly stuff, no chlorine nor any toxic cleaning materials.  Satisfaction is guaranteed and what I like best about them is that they also provide carpet cleaning and driveway cleaning, and you never have to worry about worker’s compensation.  Whether you want a one time service or a weekly service, you can get a no obligation quote.

Wedding Favors Of Chocolate

A very neat way to lay out the wedding favors of chocolate right in the middle of the dance floor that way .. everyone will see it . . and feel free to take just one.. and not more. Choose from dark chocolates with cherries, dark chocolate with tangerines (my favorite) and dark chocolate with blueberries.  Each of them are wrapped carefully and individually.   A personal message is attached to the wrapper .. with a thank you . .and a reminder of how your guests on how important they were to be at your wedding.