The Origami Of My Dream Wedding

Planning A Wedding To An Affair

Not you .. silly.. your spouse.  Yes.. while you are busy planning your wedding .. you might be ignoring your spouse.. and pushing him to another woman’s arm.. who may be more fun than you are.. at this very moment.  Yes.. that’s the cheating spouse’s common excuse.  And if i could do it every time.. when i hear such excuse from anyone.. i would definitely smack them.

While your friends and family can see the cheating signs.. most spouses can’t .. because they are way too busy planning their dream wedding.  So if you are putting too much time and energy into your perfect wedding.. now is the time to stop and reflect.  Weddings can be simpler .. and less perfect.. but once you ignore your spouse.. and send him to another woman’s arm.. there will be no wedding.

So g/fs .. the truth is harsh.. but once he starts cheating on you .. that’s it.. it will come back again.. even after the perfect wedding.  So now is the time.. to sit back.. and think.. of what you really want.

Our Home & House

A lot of people go into a marriage with a dreamy outlook and think that it is a fairy tale come true.  Truth be told, someone should tell them that it’s not a bed of roses after the wedding.  The wedding is only the beginning and I wish I could tell some of the younger brides about the whole house and home issues that everyone comes to me about after a couple of months together.

For someone like myself who also has a kid and a busy business to run with the spouse, Healthy Home Cleaning would definitely be something I could use.   Why? I’m pretty paranoid about using chemicals when my kid is around, therefore we only clean when she is sleeping. We’ve tried hiring part time cleaning ladies but if you could see the way they cleaned our house/home, you wouldn’t dare eat anything off your kitchen counter when they’re done.

When you hire someone to clean for you you want them to come prepared with everything so you don’t have to go and buy special stuff yourself. At Healthy Home Cleaning, they are professionals and they also use all environmentally friendly stuff, no chlorine nor any toxic cleaning materials.  Satisfaction is guaranteed and what I like best about them is that they also provide carpet cleaning and driveway cleaning, and you never have to worry about worker’s compensation.  Whether you want a one time service or a weekly service, you can get a no obligation quote.

New Home For The Newly-Weds

Most newly-weds also have a new home but like anyone who is getting married, the planning of the wedding is already a huge deal.  If one is not careful about the planning, the wedding may not happen, nor the new home.  Therefore we decided that the getting the new home ready is a job for the man and the wedding planning and putting it together would be mostly myself and my girlfriends.

I’m also sure all of you know how paranoid I get when I am home alone or when we are away from the home for at least 12 hrs a day because of work.  We also have a young child at home whom we leave with our babysitter a few nights a week, therefore the man suggested a fingerprint lock that way we don’t have to give the babysitter or the outlaws a set of keys.  Nor do we have to worry about them losing it and someone else picking it up and using it to break into our home.

Besides safety reasons, with such horrid weather during winter the locks are always frozen where the keyhole is, so with this fingerprint lock, you never have to worry about de-icing the keyhole, nor do one have to stand in the cold trying to open the lock.  The fingerpint lock has other features that are useful for those who have a cleaning maid during certain days or times of the week to allow them temporary access on your specific time, and one never needs to worry about losing their keys ever again.  If you are thinking that these locks must be too expensive and not within your budget, well you are wrong because they start as low as $179 with free shipping.  Don’t matter if you have a new home or an old one, check it out.

Who’s the Best Man..??

So who do you choose to be your best man..??  well .. usually it is your brother or your best friend.  But what if your spouse don’t have a brother .. or a best friend..?? hahhaha!!! now tht’s a tricky question is it not..?? how can one not have a best friend.  Well.. of course he does.. but he is in Afghan .. serving the country.. and keeping the peace… so they say.  So what do you do..??

Well.. if you are in our situation.. you tell your man.. to find someone whom.. he can talk to.. and someone whom he can somewhat depend on.  A cousin perhaps..??  someone who knows how to party.. and hold a decent conversatiion.. and who is awesome in making arrangement and make sure the best man can afford between $400 - $1000 to make your wedding go well.  So who is your best man..??

A Wedding Dance to Remember

Some wedding dance eh..!!  Now if only i can get the man to do that.. muahahahah!! i bet we will be the wedding couple of the year.

To Honeymoon or Not To HoneyMoon

Yes..!! i get asked a lot these day .. about the honeymoon.  The wedding is already costing us a small fortune.. therefore to spend another $2K on the honeymoon.. it might just break our bank.  We had planned our wedding to be a non-financial burden to us.. so if it is gonna cost us a lot more than we can afford..  i think we might just do away with the honeymoon.

A lot of younger couple are gonna just splurge .. because they think it is a once in a lifetime thingie.. and i cannot agree more.. but for us.. i rather not begin our life with debt.  I think in any relationship.. to start of with putting the man in debt is a definitely no-no, in fact, I had seen many marriages break.. because of financial disagreeement.  I mean if your spouse was making a lot of money.. sure ..!! go for it.. but if you are not.. you know what i mean.  Don’t get pressurized into doing what others think is right.. because they don’t know your financial situation.

What Does A Wedding Means?

Is it the end..?? or the beginning..?? is it for yourself.. or for others..?? is it for being legal..?? or just a dream you want to act out..??  What does a wedding really mean to anyone..??  Are you having the wedding for yourself..?? or for him..?? or for the parents..?? or like me.. who has a kid..  for the kid..?? so that she wouldn’t be called names .. when she is older.. or am i afraid.. to teach my kid.. that it is not right.. not to have a wedding. Afterall, every mother wants their kid to get marry in a “proper” way right..??  So what is your ulterior motive of having a wedding..??  what do you hope to get outta your wedding celebration..??  Is it really important.. someone asked me.. to show the whole world.. that you are in a wedding dress.. and so forth .. and so forth..??  and getting presents.. that you probably wouldn’t use.  What is your reason for getting married..??  Are you doing the whole circus show for yourself..?? or for others..??

Finding Your Soul Mate

As I prepare for my wedding I am often asked about how I met my spouse.  Truth be told, when people hear that I met him on the internet they are in awe that we met online and chatted for a good 6 yrs before I came to Canada and now are getting married after having a child with him.  We have been together technically for about 14 yrs now.

So how do you find your soul mate? While some may be skeptical about chat lines and making friends with a complete stranger, isn’t it the same even if you met him personally or were introduced to each other by a mutual friend?  My advice about0 these adult chat rooms is to use common sense and also keep an open mind.  Even if you don’t make it as soul mates you can still be good friends. Free chats are always fun, you never know who you might meet and I really truly feel that getting to know the person over the internet or phone first before embarking into anything serious isn’t a bad thing at all.

Marrying The Family Too..??

No way..!! not here in Canada..! if you marry a Chinese man.. sure you get to marry his whole family .. and the extended one..!  But in Canada.. the men here are pretty different. and i’m sure . the man wouldn’t even think to ask his parents advise on alot of things.. about our relationship.  Plus the parents .. don’t interfere, which is what i like most being over here.. and marry a white man.

Why Men Are Not Interested In The Wedding Preparation?

I don’t think any men are..??  unless they love the girlfriend or woman very much.. or more than their life..??  the man had a friend.. who got married a few years ago.. and each time.. i asked him.. hows the preparation.. ?? he would answer.. i’ve done my part .. by proposing.. and buying thr ring.

At that time, i felt that he was just being arrogant.. and ignorant.. and kinda childish.. plus i felt like smacking him.. muahahahah!!  smack his smug answer and look .. !  But knowing the kinda person he was.. i didn’t say a thing.. but still.. i felt that man like him shouldn’t get married.

Although most men.. ain’t this way.. i knwo that they leave pretty much everything to the woman.  So should we still get married.. when he show no interest..?? that’s the big question.  If he didn’t want a wedding .. does it mean .. he doesn’t wanna marry you .. and spend the rest of his life with you ..??