The Origami Of My Dream Wedding

Who’s the Best Man..??

So who do you choose to be your best man..??  well .. usually it is your brother or your best friend.  But what if your spouse don’t have a brother .. or a best friend..?? hahhaha!!! now tht’s a tricky question is it not..?? how can one not have a best friend.  Well.. of course he does.. but he is in Afghan .. serving the country.. and keeping the peace… so they say.  So what do you do..??

Well.. if you are in our situation.. you tell your man.. to find someone whom.. he can talk to.. and someone whom he can somewhat depend on.  A cousin perhaps..??  someone who knows how to party.. and hold a decent conversatiion.. and who is awesome in making arrangement and make sure the best man can afford between $400 - $1000 to make your wedding go well.  So who is your best man..??

A Wedding Dance to Remember

Some wedding dance eh..!!  Now if only i can get the man to do that.. muahahahah!! i bet we will be the wedding couple of the year.

To Honeymoon or Not To HoneyMoon

Yes..!! i get asked a lot these day .. about the honeymoon.  The wedding is already costing us a small fortune.. therefore to spend another $2K on the honeymoon.. it might just break our bank.  We had planned our wedding to be a non-financial burden to us.. so if it is gonna cost us a lot more than we can afford..  i think we might just do away with the honeymoon.

A lot of younger couple are gonna just splurge .. because they think it is a once in a lifetime thingie.. and i cannot agree more.. but for us.. i rather not begin our life with debt.  I think in any relationship.. to start of with putting the man in debt is a definitely no-no, in fact, I had seen many marriages break.. because of financial disagreeement.  I mean if your spouse was making a lot of money.. sure ..!! go for it.. but if you are not.. you know what i mean.  Don’t get pressurized into doing what others think is right.. because they don’t know your financial situation.

What Does A Wedding Means?

Is it the end..?? or the beginning..?? is it for yourself.. or for others..?? is it for being legal..?? or just a dream you want to act out..??  What does a wedding really mean to anyone..??  Are you having the wedding for yourself..?? or for him..?? or for the parents..?? or like me.. who has a kid..  for the kid..?? so that she wouldn’t be called names .. when she is older.. or am i afraid.. to teach my kid.. that it is not right.. not to have a wedding. Afterall, every mother wants their kid to get marry in a “proper” way right..??  So what is your ulterior motive of having a wedding..??  what do you hope to get outta your wedding celebration..??  Is it really important.. someone asked me.. to show the whole world.. that you are in a wedding dress.. and so forth .. and so forth..??  and getting presents.. that you probably wouldn’t use.  What is your reason for getting married..??  Are you doing the whole circus show for yourself..?? or for others..??

Finding Your Soul Mate

As I prepare for my wedding I am often asked about how I met my spouse.  Truth be told, when people hear that I met him on the internet they are in awe that we met online and chatted for a good 6 yrs before I came to Canada and now are getting married after having a child with him.  We have been together technically for about 14 yrs now.

So how do you find your soul mate? While some may be skeptical about chat lines and making friends with a complete stranger, isn’t it the same even if you met him personally or were introduced to each other by a mutual friend?  My advice about0 these adult chat rooms is to use common sense and also keep an open mind.  Even if you don’t make it as soul mates you can still be good friends. Free chats are always fun, you never know who you might meet and I really truly feel that getting to know the person over the internet or phone first before embarking into anything serious isn’t a bad thing at all.

Marrying The Family Too..??

No way..!! not here in Canada..! if you marry a Chinese man.. sure you get to marry his whole family .. and the extended one..!  But in Canada.. the men here are pretty different. and i’m sure . the man wouldn’t even think to ask his parents advise on alot of things.. about our relationship.  Plus the parents .. don’t interfere, which is what i like most being over here.. and marry a white man.

Why Men Are Not Interested In The Wedding Preparation?

I don’t think any men are..??  unless they love the girlfriend or woman very much.. or more than their life..??  the man had a friend.. who got married a few years ago.. and each time.. i asked him.. hows the preparation.. ?? he would answer.. i’ve done my part .. by proposing.. and buying thr ring.

At that time, i felt that he was just being arrogant.. and ignorant.. and kinda childish.. plus i felt like smacking him.. muahahahah!!  smack his smug answer and look .. !  But knowing the kinda person he was.. i didn’t say a thing.. but still.. i felt that man like him shouldn’t get married.

Although most men.. ain’t this way.. i knwo that they leave pretty much everything to the woman.  So should we still get married.. when he show no interest..?? that’s the big question.  If he didn’t want a wedding .. does it mean .. he doesn’t wanna marry you .. and spend the rest of his life with you ..??

Silver Wedding Band

I asked the man if he would like a silver wedding band instead of a gold one.. for our wedding.  He said.. it didn’t matter to him.  You think all men are this way..??

Anyways.. i kinda like something different.. and wanna try something different too.  But silver wedding band may be cheaper.. than gold.. it is the design of the ring that may cost us alot more.  So the budget is essential too.  I know for sure.. that silver is as good as gold..and they last forever.. if you donch bang them around.  But of course, i want an appropriate size and thickness of the ring for the man.. because the one he is currently wearing is kinda a ridiculous width size.. too thin.. and meant for a woman.  Of course, he doesn’t think so.  And nope.. i’ll never buy them. .unless i get to see them.. and put them on.. and like them.  Same for the man.. i’ll have to bring him to the jewelry store for that.. and it has to be the times. .when he is in a good mood too.  Afterall, you can’t choose a wedding band.. gold or not gold.. in a bad mood day.. eh..??

Barong Tagalog

I’m on the quest to find something nice and casual for the man to wear during our wedding. The barong tagalog was first introduced to me.. when i was a kid. .and attending church. You see our pastor.. Pastor Fernandez was a philipino and every sunday .. you will see him wearing something like that. And of course, with all the philipino guests we had in our church for singing and ministry talks.. i see alot of this shirt.. which was in a good way.. because Singapore was darn hot.

This shirt is the national shirt for philippine men.. and it is hand embroidered and it cost like $249. Very nice can comes in different embroideries.

I think if i had them make it like short sleeves… the man would prolly prefer it.. not so hot. I’ve seen my pastor worn short sleeves ones before.

Look how beautiful this is.. and it can be worn for casual/formal occasions even after our wedding ..!! awesome.. or what..!!

Some colored ones are also nice.. but this one isn’t that expensive.. and that is because it is not embroidered i think. It is only monochromatic handpainted with leaf and bamboo pattern. I think alot of ppl would choose something like that.. because it is cheaper.. and more feasible with the budget. You can choose for a chinese collar instead of a normal one. And given a choice i would choose a chinese collar but it’s entirely up to the man.. i am just given him many options.

Another colored one..!! monochromatic hand-painted with leaf embroidery buttons with loop closures. At $92.99.  Barong Filiipino Designs.com is where i found them, you can also order them online.  I think they can be customed made to what you like too.

Dressing Up Your Man For The Wedding

I don’t know about your man.. but i know mine wouldn’t want to put on a “monkey” suit as he put it.  But you see, he would do it.. just because i want a wedding and not him.  So if you are facing the same problem as I.. then you should look for something that he can dressed up casually.. that way.. he doesn’t have to put on a tux.  Therefore .. i decided on the beach theme.. all because of it.  Whereby i can still wear my wedding dress.. and he can dressed up casually .. like those philipino man where when they go to church.. now that would be casual enough .. but smart.